Recognizing that you are sexually attracted to children is quite a shock to most people. Many struggle with this fate and ask themselves questions such as:
Am I now a sex monster?
“Do I have a choice about my inclination?”
“Do I have a choice to commit assault or not?”
“What about abuse images?”
Am I condemned to a life without sex?
“Is an abstaining life with pedophilia worth living at all?”
Answers to a few such questions can be found, among others, on our FAQ page. In addition, many people with pedophilia are quite alone because it is difficult to find trustworthy contacts. With our platform, we want to inform about pedophilia, contact persons, relatives, friends and professionals and offer help for self-help**. Those affected for those affected. In addition to our forum, there is also the possibility of a personal consultation by email or online conference. Please contact our team.
In addition, sexuality is also weighted differently for each person so that focuses, challenges and temptations are different for everyone. There is no blanket solution for how a pedo can lead his life responsibly. The only constant is that, of course, no attacks must occur. Which is actually self-evident but unfortunately has to be mentioned in our context nowadays. More on that elsewhere.
Furthermore, our stated goal is to counteract the strong stigma attached to paedophiles in society through public relations. We talk to media representatives again and again and plan to offer workshops on the topic. (see “Public”)
With us you will find
You can reach us by email at mailbox -ätt- suh-ev.de (PGP key) And especially the forum team at: mail -ätt- gsa-forum.de (PGP key)
Behind this website and our other projects is the association Schicksal und Herausforderung e.V. whose members consist of the team that operates and supervises them. All his work is financed by donations. We want to encourage others to never lose hope, but to face their fate and take on the challenge of making the best of their lives – in the sense of child protection and in the sense of human dignity and self-respect. More about the club here. The name of our website and the association refers to the fact that every person’s own sexual preference is fate: it is not freely chosen but manifests itself at a young age in a way that science does not yet see through. It is also unchangeable and accompanies each of us until the end of life. And living with pedophilia on multiple levels is a challenge that needs to be accepted and addressed. In this respect, we see pedophilia as fate and challenge.
Even today, the social approach to deep-seated taboo topics amounts more to suppression, concealment and hushing up than to open dealings and rational processing. Pedophilia is probably one of the biggest of these. However, this sexual preference is not so rare: Scientists estimate that at least one in a hundred men feel paedophilic (priority of responsiveness by children) and significantly more (about 20%) children sometimes feel sexually attractive. The frequency of pedophilia among women is unfortunately still completely unknown due to long-lasting ignorance in science, but there is sporadic evidence that the numbers may be similar to those among men.
Does pedophile mean to abuse children? Definitely no. Just as a heterosexual orientation does not make a person a rapist, a pedophile sexual preference makes no one a child abuser. Other factors are decisive for this and the blame for such an act is never solely on an inclination. However, partly a lot of strength and courage to never fully live out his main sexual inclination. But since sexual acts with children can cause them massive damage, they are completely excluded for us and for many pedos. A responsible life with a pedophile inclination poses precisely this particular challenge to us.
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